when is it too soon?

unfortunately, ngowned is correct. i will be moving back to the bay area at the end of july. i will be moving to a more chill job so hopefully i can blog with more vigor and frequency. 

chill weeeknd for most part. started on wednesday

hooka in LES with BYOB. pretty bomb time. haven smoked in awhile so it was chill. watermelon n some other flavors. good conversation. 2 bottles of wine and a six pack of beerz. cant beat that. i need to hooka more

thurs went to a shitty korean bar. a bar we frequent way too much. i am going to cease to go to that joint from now on.

fri – got kicked out of club and sat was chill with buddy coming from out of town.

sun – got tasty dinner with my buddies at an all-u-can-eat japanese bbq place. swear i gained like 5lbs afterwarsd. also watched hellboy 2 (not great) with buddy of mine n his girlfriend. first time meeting her so it was neat. she didnt say much since shes basically a fob from korea but whatever. sometimes in life u just gota live with it. it was awkward because she kept on laughing at all these random parts in the movie that no one else was.

now to the title of the post. when is it OK to move on after a relationship? buddy of mine n his gf jus ended a ~2 yr relationship. long story short: she moved on with another dude less than one month after. i personally think thats too short of a gap. the worse thing is that she supposedly wanted some free time. which at first was understandable since in my eyes, the two were on the marriage track. (from socal then norcal then ny then back to norcal) what do yall think? from what my friends have told me, this guy is a douchebag too. double ouch. i feel for my friend.

My Earnest Sewns

Saturday morning. The best day of the week to do absolutely nothing and feel great about it. Sunday’s are rough because you know you have work the next day. But Saturday’s are perfect. I woke up this morning to my roommate and his gf giggling in the shower. Kill me now. There is nothing worst than being waken up by giggles in the bathroom. My roommate has a gf, who by the way is his ex gf, you know how those go. What’s worst is that now she’s been coming to my pad more often than usual. It’s hell. It’s one thing to bring a girl to my apartment, it’s another to bring some past flame whom I’ve seen and dealt with many times already. At least bring a hotter girl back. Upgrade not downgrade. People need to move the fuck on. Hold on, let me turn off Miley Cyrus. It’s hard to blog with music on.

So on Saturdays I usually clean my place up. I do the dishes, vacuum the rug, clean the bathroom, do some laundry, and wipe the dust off of my Samsung 46″ flat screen tv. I like to point out details even when they are not impressive at all. I was organizing my closet (no I’m not gay) when I came across my old Earnest Sewns. Earnest Sewn is a brand of premium denim that has held a lot of value to me in the past years. It was my first personal purchase for premium denim and these babies cost me $200. Call me stupid, but I loved these jeans. The fit was perfect. I didn’t even need to tailor them whatsoever. Even better, the quality was superb. The jeans were thick denim with very minimal blemishes and no pocket design. It had a very classic American feel to it that I loved. Most importantly, I bought it myself.

The problem when I bought these jeans were that they fit too perfectly. My waist size literally hit the edges of the jean with barely any room for extra comfort. This is a big risk when you buy jeans because they normally shrink after you wash them. At the time I bought my jeans, I had began dating my ex gf. As time went by, I was starting to feel like the jeans were getting too tight. Were they shrinking more or was I getting fat? I soon realized that it was the latter. I was getting fat and these jeans would no longer fit me anymore. I began dropping the top button after every meal with a loud sigh like I had just urinated after a 6 hour car ride.

When you’re in relationships, you tend to do 3 very routine things ala Chris Rock: Fuck, Eat, and Watch Movies. Chris Rock was right. Due to my routine-like lifestyle, I was packing on the pounds and busting out of my favorite pair of jeans. This was not good.

Today when I cleaned out of my closet, I looked at these jeans with nostalgia and decided to try them on. I was blown away by the fact that not only could I fit them perfectly, but there was extra room for comfort. I had lost several pounds since my last relationship due to my increased time to work out, eat healthier, and focus on my own self and wellness. I never understood why people consistently worked out and took care of themselves until I felt the actual effect of great results.

I’ll be wearing these Earnest Sewns for awhile and it feels good. Sorry for the DBG entry.

Rules of Dating

While I’m an experienced girlfriend, I am clueless when it comes to casual dating. Below are some questions I have regarding dating and its rules – although I’m sure that none of the answers I’m searching for will be finite. Damn. Please comment and answer accordingly.

1. Should men always pay on the first date? What are some exceptions?
2. Is it too soon to sleep with someone on the second date? And what the hell do you talk about the morning after?
3. How do you even know if you’re being asked out on a date?
4. Is it possible for two attractive people of the opposite sex to hang out platonically?
5. Do you believe in born-again virgins? (I think I do.)
6. Can you start a relationship after sleeping with someone on the first date?
7. Is discussing your marriage plans on the first date a no-no?
8. How soon is too soon to move on after a serious relationship? (My own experience will probably be detailed in a future blog entry.)
9. Dating a blogger/chronic over-sharer – yes? Or no?
10. Disclosing your past as a cheater (if you’re reformed) – yes? Or no?

Thanks!

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